Dear Operaman,
The boy who walked me to my truck tonight glanced at the cd case on my passenger seat and asked sweetly, Who are La Boheem?
As if (they) were a band, perhaps stylistically related to Yo La Tengo, or other bands with foreign articles.
And this is still better, I guess, than the boy who I had a drink with shortly after you dumped my overeducated ass, who accused me of making up the word modicum.
Or the boy who, when I said coyly that the freckles on his shoulders were disarming, looked worried and asked what I meant.
I am no longer stuck on you, Operaman; I have sufficiently Moved On. But you did spoil me a bit in the smart / attracted to smart departments. I have yet to find another date who not only speaks in crafty sentences with obscure references but finds this sort of conversation – would it be too optimistic to say sexy?
In any case part of me is hoping you have to explain who Sappho is each time a cute girl meets your car that bears her name. (Like how effortlessly I edited out eponymous?) But most of me, honest to God, just hopes you are faring better.
posted by tortaluga @ 3:19 AM
4 Comments:
boys rule!
It's sad, and I half wish it weren't true but recent research now strongly suggests that the more intelligent a woman is the less attraction your average joe will feel towards her. One study even concluded that for every 16 points of IQ gain, men are 35% more likely to get married, while women with the same increase will be 40% less likely to get married.
But don't be fooled (or too disheartened) by the research.
The statistics here reflect the average guy and his inability to feel confident in the face of a superior minded woman. Really, it's in your favor. Less intelligent, less actualized men are literally filtering themselves out for you. There are still, I promise, plenty of intelligent men wise enough to know there's nothing as sexy as a smart woman, and confident enough not to be threatened by it. We're a minority, granted, but your odds get better the further north you get from southern california.
Chin up.
Hmm...16 points of IQ gain from where? what's the baseline...and more likely or less likely than what?
I find myself still looking for one of the "plenty" who is farther west than the other coast and whose brain turns me wanton. I'm with our intrepid author on the point that a man with a fully realized vocabulary, nuanced and complex intellect, and a certain talent in the subtleties of sarcasm as foreplay is one to be tackled gleefully.
A) I cannot tell a lie - I had to look up Sappho.
B) You just need to date nerdier guys. Isn't there a scrabble club you could crash?
C) Come on, admit that if La Boheem was otherwise fun, you'd have found that comment endearing.
Love,
La
The ritual blaring of the Sat. opera from NYC in my house this weekend was none other than La Boheme! - Talley
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